You don't understand M.E. - on The Wright Stuff

Thus runs the blurb for a slot on Matthew Wright's "The Wright Stuff" this morning. It's about the latest study on M.E. and school absenteeism:

'Part 5: You Don’t Understand M.E.!
Then: You don’t understand M.E! A new study suggests one in 100 school kids are battling chronic fatigue syndrome, a major reason for absence. What’s more most are undiagnosed which is perhaps not surprising as the symptoms include extreme tiredness, lapses in concentration and mood swings. It’s clear a lot of you want to talk about ME and the way the rest of us react to it, so that’s what we’ll do.'

Sorry this has adverts. Sorry it needs scrolling through till you get to the M.E.bit. For once, IT WILL BE WORTH IT! (It's after the 4th ad-break from about the 52nd minute onwards).

I was frankly sceptical before I managed to watch it on Channel 5 catch-up. We've had our bellyful of tomfoolery, after all, haven't we, with yesterday's offerings from the Food Hospital?
I only noticed it when it was mentioned on an M.E. chat group.

So I waited till I'd recovered from a lovely but exhausting Christmas visit from friends who really DO understand M.E. Then I tuned in, all but peeping between my fingers from behind the settee. Well, lying on the settee, anyway.


IF YOU WATCH NOTHING ELSE THIS CHRISTMAS, PLEASE WATCH THIS! IT'S THE MAINSTREAM M.E. COVERAGE YOU HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR ALL YOUR LIFE!
You Don't Understand M.E. on "The Wright Stuff" Channel 5 15th Dec 2011


Matthew argued it was "still the most misunderstood" illness in a build-up link earlier in the show, so I took that as hopeful! By the end I was almost weeping with thankfulness and joy!

Snippets include: Matthew Wright saying M.E. has been "given horrible nicknames in the past". He made the effort to pronounce myalgic encephalomyelitis correctly and list many of the symptoms over and beyond fatigue.

There was sympathetic balanced comment on the "confusion" over the disease in the popular imagination. Virus, glandular fever, genetically inherited, cycle of good and bad times, crippling - you'll hear all these words spoken with true feeling! A miracle in itself!

Esther Rantzen and Emily were shown in a photo (from the Mail Online site - but don't despair!). Guest Anne Diamond only said how she considered Esther a tuned-in mum, so she took seriously that this was a real crippling disease.

It was questioned, considering all that's known about M.E., whether it was feasible, as this latest study claims, that early diagnosed teens can get well from this in 6 weeks.

So refreshing to hear the tone of the discussion and helpful content being broadcast to the nation. Excuse me if my hasty notes are a bit sparse. I know you'll want to listen for yourself, when well enough, anyway!

 Why not listen to it as an early Christmas presie to yourself? It'll get you in the mood to celebrate even if you can't raise your head off the pillow!

Anne Diamond spoke from a parent's point of view. The need to know when something is just teenage malaise, and when it is the serious neurological disease M.E. I couldn't get used to all the worried, shocked expressions on the faces of the panel and the audience alike as they heard the truth, many of them for the first time!

Anne said there was evidence (evidence!!! wheeeeee!) that there clearly is something there. She compared it to her personal experience and campaign for recognition of Cot Death. Cot Death used to be pooh-poohed too, but is now recognised and taken very seriously.

Another guest, Steve Furst was asked if it might be psychosomatic, but countered at once that understanding is in many ways embryonic, so that's not something people can assume at all. Genius!

It's all about education, I believe one of the panel said. Oh yes, it is! Amazingly, this programme has been the best thing I have EVER seen, for educating the wider public and dismantling the rubbish that's the usual fare we're served about M.E. in the media, in doctor's surgeries and elsewhere.

It was said, from the study, the implication is that it is easier to treat if caught early. Later diagnosis means the disease can have had a hold, doing untold damage for many years.

Then they took three callers on the phones. All three wonderful callers made the time left really count, and none of us will be able to thank them enough. Not a word was wasted.

Jo (32) from Dorset had been diagnosed at 15 when doing her GCSEs. She told of being bedbound for a year and needing to use a wheelchair at times, her mum having to carry her up the stairs. You could see the guests wince at the revelation of such real suffering. Jo explained articulately that although much improved, she didn't consider herself cured even now, and had an "awful immune system". They concluded that if it's M.E. then, it's unlikely it could be cured in just 6 weeks! It was acknowledged that depression, suicidal thoughts, mental anguish only follow from the unremitting severe suffering, and are not a cause of the disease. Jo had improved after having an op on her ovaries, but nobody knew if this was connected. Just like a friend of mine who is in remission from severe M.E. after cancer treatment. One day we will know if these other treatments are affecting the body systems attacked in M.E.!

Jo said she had lost most of her friends, who grow tired with waiting about for someone who can rarely join in.

Duncan from the Orkney Islands was the second caller. His wife is ill with M.E.He explained how short term memory loss is one of the long term side effects she suffers. This makes it impossibly difficult to hold converstions on the phone. How familiar does this sound? How refreshing to hear the truth spoken to help everyone out there to begin to understand. Comments came from the panel like "Shattering!" "Terrifying!" "The lack of help!" and "To be treated as if there's nothing wrong with you!" The message was certainly hitting home at last, with not a nay-sayer in sight!


Will was the third and final caller and also spoke so well. Matthew Wright was genuinely sorry, wishing they had more time for the subject. The studio phones were apparently ringing off the hook. He ended the segment, regretfully, by saying he couldn't think of a phone-in so disquieting. He finally promised, "We will do it again!"

I promise this one will restore your faith in at least a section of the media. I hope the awareness it has begun to raise will be the biggest winter snowball ever. I hope, like me, it brings you hope and joy this season! XXX